Women’s Voice against Female Voice

We live in a society that loves to attack.

We attack each other,

We attack the planet,

We attack  ourselves.

With so much competition going on around us, it can be hard to just relax and put all else aside. So why do women continue to make it even harder on each other?  Each and every person is aware of the pressures from the world around us and if we begin to talk about them , we can start to eliminate them.

Just the other day, I was sitting in a coffee shop enjoying some tea when a group of older women sat down next to me.  A little while later, I overheard one of the women mentioning how she would NEVER vote for a women for president.  Never once did she mention the current female candidate Hilary Clinton.  She only spoke about how females are so genetically different from males, and about how we could not handle the stress of the position.

Sitting there, writing for a Women and Gender Studies class I am taking, I felt horrified by the statement.  It seemed like a foreign thought process that did not really exist in the world around me.  Yet here it was, next to me at a coffee shop.

Here was a female, using her voice, to put down another female.  We have proven things through science now about biology and gender that should be able to disapprove those kinds of thoughts.  We do not need them in society.  They limit the success that people can have.  Some call this the Pygmalion Effect . The idea that we will only reach the standards that others believe we will.  If as females, we have high expectations for each other and support each other to achieve them, we can break down any Glass Ceiling and make it through any labyrinth.

This isn’t the only way girls like to bash each other.  We get scrutinized over photos and social media posts, and whisper about each other as we walk by.  Little girls get bullied over mundane issues and left out of groups. Celebrities are bashed over their personal posts. High school students aren’t invited to parties and judged because of a bad hair day.  There are  beauty contests at the gym and people worry about their make-up just to grab the newspaper in the morning. Television shows criticize a Miss America contestant for nursing monologue.


No more use of the voice against female voice. Let us embrace each other for being ourselves and lets create a society that we WANT to live in.  Group together to provide support for those who are being critiqued and receiving the same assistance back.  Stand up for the movements you believe in and work together with like minded individuals.  Know that you are affected by the people and culture artifacts that you surround yourself with, so pick them carefully.

And if you find yourself needing a little inspiration, check out Climbing PoeTree.  There spoken word poems will make you more motivated than ever to want to make a difference.  My personal favorite is Awakening.



Storytelling Through Body Movements

Storytelling is more than just words.  It is about the passion behind the story, the storyteller, and their body.  Stories can be told through movements of the body as simple as hand movements and as complex as dances.  Social media has provided the opportunity for millions to express themselves to the rest of the world through body language and storytelling.  As I began to explore this concept, one video in particular stuck out to me.

Watch the Video Here.

This story is told by a women named Jody Steel.  She is using her body, and the power of that story, to share a message.  Her voice is the artwork and through media, it can be heard by thousands. As of today, this video has 91,898,281 views.  Through use of her body, Steel tells a story of body image and its moving target of ideals for all people.


It seems that if a person uses their body to please others, whether in television, modeling, Hollywood, or high school, they can never please their audiences. I saw that Jody commented on the video saying:


 This moving target becomes an obsession for some, and that story can become a dangerous one. Jody was able to take those feelings and to tell her story, through her own form of art and the use of her body. When topics such as this are able to be talked about, and expressed, it becomes an outlet for some.  For others, it becomes a medium of learning.  If stories are not shared, it is difficult for those who have not  experienced them, to understand them.

As I began to write this post, I managed to get distracted and found myself on Facebook.  Within 5 minutes, I found multiple videos and photos that used art as a way for a female to share her voice, and her view points.  One that stuck out the most to me is about a young women who was raped.  After watching the film, The Hunting Ground, rape culture and how society treats rape victims has been on the forefront of my mind, so this piece caught my eye.

Check out the article I found.

Karmenife Paulino is the student in the post.  The article says that she was having difficulties recovering after being raped at a fraternity, so in response, she took dominatrix photos in front of her campus fraternity houses. These photos are a powerful representation of Paulino’s attitudes about her rape and the culture surrounding it. Rape culture is more than the rape itself, it is the attitudes around it and the people encouraging it.  Rape culture is how universities help the victims of rape, and bring justice to the rapists or how they focus on their reputations instead of the well-being of students.  Rape culture is how a collection of people work together to prevent rape, and teach their children how to respect the bodies, and minds, of others.

The photos, taken by Tess Altman, are speaking to viewers.  Every person who sees it, may take away something different, but they each take away something. That is the power of storytelling.  The teller can send a message to the audience, but it up to them, and their personal life experiences to interpret that story.  Tess Altman and Karmenife Paulino, used their voice, through photography, to tell a story.  A story that reflects the dominant society of fraternities and the victimizing of females who hang out with them.  Karmenife is the dominant one in the photo, and the males are victimized.  They are wearing shirts that say “Frat Filth”, as an icing on the cake to show how little they are to the dominator.  This is an interpretation of the frat house experience that many face while at college.


The photos are a way of exposing the rape culture that is exposed in fraternities and on college campuses.  The story being told is a real one, and far too commonly told. Media is a way for these stories, and many others to be shared, providing on opportunity for them to be heard and to make a difference in our world. Humans need to continue to share stories, because it is a way to define the occurrences around us.  It  allows us to make progress as a society.